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In Memory of Jerry Weinstein

Sunday, January 17, 2021

It is with tremendous sadness that we share the passing of Jerry Weinstein. In addition to being the first divorce mediator in New England, Jerry was a founding member of MCFM, our first president, the 2006 recipient of the John Fiske Award for Excellence in Mediation, and an MCFM Director Emeritus. 

A tribute to Jerry by John Fiske:

Jerry Weinstein was the father or grandfather of family mediation in Massachusetts, and the Massachusetts Council on Family Mediation was his brainchild and home. I joined the mediation family in September of 1979 after taking a year long absence from Massachusetts with my wife and 3 children with no idea what I would do upon returning. During our trek in Nepal in February my wife suggested I try to help people get divorced peacefully and when I met with Weston friends in Crete in April they...

Child Support Guidelines Task Force Comments

Wednesday, December 16, 2020

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The 2020-2021 Massachusetts Trial Court Child Support Guidelines Task Force requested the submission of comments by December 15, 2020 to assist them in updating the guidelines as required every four years.  After multiple meetings and requests for submissons from MCFM members an ad hoc committee put together comments to be submitted from MCFM.  These are the comments we submitted:

To the Task Force:

The Massachusetts...

In Memory of Rebecca Cohan

Tuesday, December 15, 2020
Rebecca M. Cohan, long-time MCFM member, passed away on December 6, 2020. As a therapist she worked with individual clients, couples and families for over 40 years, and in 2002 she began working as a family mediator as well. Rebecca continued to help families through her Co-Mediation practice with attorney Stephen Linsky and in her work as a GAL and Parent Coordinator. Our thoughts are with her family, friends, and colleagues. 
 
You can find her obituary here. In lieu of flowers, remembrances may be made to either the American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU) or the Angell Memorial Animal Hospital in Boston, MA, both of which Rebecca enjoyed supporting. 
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In Memory of Barry Harsip

Tuesday, December 15, 2020
Barry S. Harsip, long-time MCFM member, passed away on December 3, 2020 after a long battle with a terminal neurological disease. Our community mourns the loss of an ardent supporter of mediation and peaceful dispute resolution.  Our thoughts are with his family, friends, and colleagues. 
 
You can find his full obituary here.  In lieu of flowers, Barry requested donations be made either to Southern Poverty Law Center, www.splcenter.org or the United States Holocaust Memorial Museum, www.ushmm.org.
 
For Barry's obituary and online...

Hiring a Mediator for Your Coronavirus Divorce

Tuesday, November 3, 2020

Hiring a Mediator for Your Coronavirus Divorce

by Devlin Farmer

couple meeting with mediator.jpgRight now, more than ever, mediation can assist with family restructuring. The courts are backed up and families are under tremendous stress under one roof. The good news is that the entire process of a divorce or separation can now be done online (Zoom); and a mediator can help. A mediator can also be the best way to avoid the stress, damage and cost of a court battle. 
 
How do you choose a mediator? Is it safe to google “mediator” and pick one? When it comes to getting divorced, you don’t want to cut corners making decisions about your children’s custody, child support, your retirement accounts or who gets the marital home. Do it right. Find...

Their Legacy Moves us Forward

Wednesday, September 23, 2020

Their Legacy Moves us Forward

by Jennifer Hawthorne

The legal community lost two brilliant minds last week with the passing of the Massachusetts Supreme Judicial Court Chief Justice Ralph D. Gants, and the passing of Supreme Court of the United States Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg. In very different ways, both of these great leaders influenced my career path. They each helped to define for me the way in which I wanted to use my advocacy skills to promote more access to justice and a justice system that promotes greater equality in outcome. While my story may be unique, these two zealous advocates had a memorable impact on the career of many of my fellow mediators too. 

When applying to law school, I wrote of my desire to affect...

Remembering Chief Justice Ralph D. Gants with John Fiske

Tuesday, September 22, 2020
When asked about the passing of Chief Justice Gants, John Fiske, a Director Emeritus of MCFM said:
 
"I knew him well, first through soccer and then through my history of working four years for the SJC on trying to improve court administration 1974 to 1978, and also through his relationship with Massachusetts Justice of the Federal District Court Dennis Saylor, my son in law. Chief Justice Gants was a big supporter of mediation and its role in helping the courts in Massachusetts serve justice for all.  He helped to put in place the two amazing Chief Justices that we interact with more often in the area of family law and mediation: Chief Justice of the Trial Court Paula Carey and Chief Justice of the Probate and Family Court John Casey. They too are both strong supporters of mediation and will surely carry on his great legacy.  We are indebted to him as a community for the work that he has done...

Bearing Witness in Mediation

Friday, September 11, 2020

allgo-an-app-for-plus-size-people-meeting photo with text.jpgBearing Witness in Mediation 

by Laurie Israel 

Published in mediate.com, August, 2020

Recently I’ve been pondering a certain aspect of my experience with mediating divorces. It’s about something that often comes up in my encounters with my mediation clients.  

The feature of all mediations that I will talk about in this post is something I call “bearing witness.”  When clients bear witness in mediation, and when you, as the mediator bear witness for the clients, it can be quite powerful in resolving a divorce. But it needs to be handled properly, or it can be dangerous and get out of control.  If that...

eFiling Has Arrived for 1A Joint Petition Divorces in Massachusetts

Tuesday, September 1, 2020

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eFiling Has Arrived for 1A Joint Petition Divorces in Massachusetts

by Ellen Waldorf

The Massachusetts Probate and Family Court announced this week that its eFiling system can now be used to file 1A divorces. eFiling is currently available in all counties in the Probate & Family Court.  Pro se mediation clients as well as attorneys representing mediating clients can use the system. There is a $22 case fee plus processing fees for eChecks and credit cards used to pay the court filing fee. Indigent clients can seek to waive the fees. Documents need to be uploaded individually in PDF formats.  eFiling may be appropriate for some clients and not others.  For more information, see...

MCFM President's Message - 2020

Wednesday, June 24, 2020

Transcript of Audio:

Hi, I'm Justin Kelsey. My firm is Skylark Law & Mediation. My pronouns are he and him, and I'm the newly elected president of the Massachusetts Council on Family Mediation and these are my brief thoughts on my hope for this organization.  This is my President's message

During my predecessor, Vicki Shemin's presidency, we updated our mission. Our mission is:

Advancing Mediation to transform the way families resolve conflict.

It's powerful! It's not just about mediating divorce even though that's a lot of what we all do. Looking to transform the way families resolve conflict requires us to look beyond just our private practices, beyond what we do in our offices and in our branding and in our mediation room. 

Transforming the way families resolve conflict...

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